Don’t Follow Traditions that are Making You Miserable

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And that’s why I am starting to really ponder, do I really want to celebrate Christmas the way I have?

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Hi, everyone; hopefully, you had a wonderful December. I still can’t believe it is December. But it is. And we’re at the end of 2021. If you’re someone who celebrates Christmas, New Year’s, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and probably other holidays that unfortunately I don’t know much of, I hope you have a wonderful holiday. And that you’re surrounded by the people you love and doing the things you love for us, we tend to hold on to traditions and how things were done. So if our parents did it one way, we usually try to hold on to those traditions or continue carrying them on. But if you start feeling unhappy, or just not seeing the point of continuing on those celebrations, or traditions, then why continue to do it. And that’s how I’m feeling right now.

I don’t feel like celebrating Christmas anymore. And it’s because I’m starting to see that even though Christmas is supposed to be about gratitude, being surrounded by loved ones. It’s just putting up many decorations that will be up for a month and spending like crazy on presence. And that’s not what Christmas should be about. Christmas should be about love, peace, gratitude. And just, that’s it. And I feel like maybe it’s just in my family. I feel like that’s been twisted. And it’s all about the gifts. And I know you probably think, wow, this is so negative. I’m just letting you know that. For me, I’m starting to question the holidays that I celebrate. Because I feel we sometimes tend to behave a certain way for those holidays. And for Christmas, we feel as though we have to be super happy, festive. But in reality, many of us are sad, depressed, and we’re just not happy.

And the other thing is, why aren’t we feeling like this throughout the year? Why are we just using one day to feel a certain way when we should be doing it every day of our lives? And that’s why I am starting to really ponder, do I really want to celebrate Christmas, by the way, I have. I have an 18-month-old toddler, and I want him to have the same experiences my kids have. But then I’m thinking does it have to be the same experience? Maybe we do it in another way. Perhaps we stop this, buying hundreds, and some people even spend 1000s of money on presence. And maybe one small gift, two, perhaps we focus on inexperience.

The older I get, I am someone who doesn’t care about stuff. I’m very minimalist when it comes to my house. And I’m starting to feel as though I’d rather go on a nice vacation, go there and relax and have a peaceful time with my family. Then being here, taking hours to put up all these decorations, I’m going to have to spend hours taking off a month later. And then spending tons of money and time on a meal with a toddler running after him trying to make sure he doesn’t grab the tree because this kid is active as anything. And it’s going to be running after him trying to make sure he doesn’t grab the trees. And also try to make sure that everything is the way it is. And so I was hoping you could think about what it is you want. Because you shouldn’t have to do things because that’s just how they were done that isn’t going to serve you do what you want to do and create your traditions.

Create your memories. You don’t have to keep following what you thought was supposed to be it, and you are going to piss people off. But at the end of the day, it’s your life. So that’s all I wanted to say. Sorry this had a negative undertone am just thinking about how I feel about the holidays, but it isn’t you; some people love the holidays, and it is a different experience for them. So think about what it is you want and go for it.

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