Don’t Let Fear Stop You from Living the Life You Deserve

Shevonne talks about how fearful she used to be and how it caused her to be stuck. She has started fighting through her fear and is now leaving a more authentic life, which has caused her to be more content.

Podcast Transcript

Everyone, hopefully, you’ve had a wonderful week. I’ve been busy packing. And there have been tons of fires I’ve had to put out at work. So I’ve been really busy. And last week, I did release my podcast episode. And one thing that I had said was that one of probably the only good things that have come out of the pandemic is that people are really thinking about what they want. And they realize that not everything revolves around work or just one life category. It’s basically more than that. So I started thinking about that even more. And I realized that one of the things that I’ve really had a battle with is that I used to be very fearful of change. And I would sit there and over analyze and plan plan plan, and maybe it was the project manager in me. But I would just start going into planning mode. And I would plan so much that I wouldn’t even get started or make that change I wanted to make.

An example is that I’ve always wanted to live somewhere else other than the DC area, love the DC area. But I’ve always wanted to make that change. But every time that I started to plan or think about that change, I started basically psyching myself out, oh, how am I going to do this with the kids? Oh, gosh, what am I going to do here? What am I going to do for work, and then I wouldn’t move. And that’s something that my sisters, I always admired about them, is that they would live their lives. And even if something turned out to me be a mistake, at least they could say that they live their life, which is something that I didn’t do. And just since the pandemic, I’ve started being less fearful. And even if it’s something that is scaring me to do, I’m still doing it. And so that’s something that I want to say to you is, stop letting fear stop you from doing things you want to do. I am glad that I am moving and I’m moving to a great area. I think it will be good for the baby; it’ll be good for my kids. Very excited. And we’re just ready to make that change. And I’m so happy that I didn’t let it stop me.

Last year, I did go and fly to Florida and was going to make the change. And then one setback made me think, Oh, this is not meant to be. I should do this, then I didn’t do it.

During my birthday, I was like, why am I not doing what I want to do? I’m sitting here complaining that I feel stuck, that I’m not going anywhere. But when I can make a change and do something I want to do, I stop myself from doing it. So really, I’m the one that is causing my stuckness. And I’m not saying this is the same for everyone. Because some setbacks cause someone to be at the point that they’re at, and they can’t really move until that is resolved, whatever is setting them back. But I’m just talking about, for me, having myself be the reason I was stuck. So I did things that I didn’t think I would be able to do, or I thought it was too hard. And I’m proud of myself. And I was able to sell my house and buy a home in Florida. And I’m so excited about that move. And I think that it’s like that even in our careers, we do things that we remain stuck. I remember once I was at this job, horrible, toxic environment. Actually, it’s happened a few times where I’ve been in a position not happy. My co-workers weren’t happy. There was one co-worker that I was pretty close with, and we would complain about the job, and I would leave the job, and then years later, they were still there and still complaining. But why do we do that? Why do we stay somewhere that isn’t serving us in any way? Before we do quit a job? Yes, you should try to think about what is good about that job.

Create a pros and cons list. And just think about what is good because not everything is about salary. It’s the people you work with, the leadership, the opportunities to grow, the opportunities to learn the opportunities to work on fun, innovative projects. So there’s a lot that goes into it benefit working from home is it’s is really important to me. But you really have to think about what is important to you. And maybe that job is worth it; maybe there is one thing that could be tweaked here or there. And perhaps you can provide a solution for that, which could help you in many other people. But if nothing is happening, no one is making any effort to make those changes, then it’s time to polish up that resume and move from that company, and go somewhere where you feel what you want in your career. And what you want out of a company is there. And I have been seeing a lot of comments, people saying that they’re making or they’re considering a career change. I think that is great.

Do that, do your research, join a group where you can learn from others, and they can learn from you. And you guys can basically become each other support to make those changes. And I am creating a group coaching program. And also, I’m going to have a community behind that. And that is coming in March. So I am working on that because I realized that people want to make changes; there is a need there. And they want to have that support. They want to lean on someone or on a group of people who are going through the same thing as them. And currently, there isn’t. And so, I really want you to think about why you’re not making a change that you wish to make. And if they’re really is no reason for it, except the fact that you’re fearful, then you need to basically rise above it. In the past few years, when I finally said I wanted to be more like my sisters, my sisters were very fearless, like I really love. And I mean in the sense that even if they had fear, they still did what they wanted to do.

And now that I’ve become more like that, I feel like I’m being more true to myself, and I’m more at ease and more at peace with myself and my life. And even if some decision I make isn’t the right decision, I just learn from what happened. And I make sure to apply it to the next thing I’m doing. So I would love to hear from you like what are you afraid of? Why haven’t you made those changes that you want to make? And let’s get together and fight those fears and do what we want to do to have the life we want. So I just wanted to say that to everyone. I’m trying to use this webcam that I bought my son a while ago, and he wasn’t using it. So I definitely want to start using it more. And one thing that I also plan to do is start doing lives. I am terrified of that. But I’ve been getting a lot of questions. I feel like maybe even if it’s like a bi-weekly or monthly life, I want to have that so we can all get together and work together on any questions or anything in our lives that we want to share with others. So let me know if that is something you’d be interested in. I hope that everyone has a wonderful week and take care

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